Tuesday, July 27, 2010


So it occurred to me today that I had finally found a name for what I'm looking for. A mentor. I am doing pretty well as an Army wife, but I want to do better. I want to be a more efficient, knowledgeable, and motivated leader. One problem. I haven't found anyone yet that I can use as an example of success on a personal level. I know a few spouses who are successes, but either not in the way I'm looking for, or I just don't feel comfortable hitting them up for helpful goodness. Until recently there was a spouse who I looked to for general Army knowledge, but she made it very clear to me that she thinks I abuse her knowledge and the resources she was willing to provide to me. I feel badly about it, but I honestly don't think I did. It makes me sad. So for now I'll figure it out as I go along and learn the best I can with my Jr Officer's wife comrade as I struggle to learn what it means to be a successful, competent enlisted wife. Maybe someday I'll find a prefect mentor match. Until then, I'll make due same I always have. Because I can do this. Because I can succeed. Because I can change the world in tiny ways. Because I believe.

We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.

Mother Teresa


  1. I believe in you too. You cause me to swell with pride, tear up, and really want to give you hugs. And I think that's incredible success as a military spouse. Perhaps if you can't find one mentor to shadow you'll be able to learn little bits from many, along with finding your own way a little too.

  2. Everything I've learned has been the tried, failed, try again and learn method. I have some friends who've been doing this lifestyle way longer then me and they still don't know everything. I truly don't believe you can ever know everything because the military changes more often then a toddler potty training. *snicker*